Dear Lianne,

I met a woman I thought was great.  We met up a few times and then she told me that ex-husband lives in her basement. They have decided to do that for financial reasons and so their child has both parents with him.

It took me by surprise and I didn’t know what to think or say. You are an expert in this area so I thought I’d ask you what you think?


Lianne Tregobov
Intuitive Matchmaker

Dear Peter,

This is an interesting situation.  I can appreciate how this would make you feel uncomfortable as it is an unusual situation. There are many factors that would determine  if their arrangement might work out. If you choose to casually date her and didn’t spend time at her home it might be okay for now.

Very mixed messages would potentially be sent to their child if a new guy showed up on the scene. Her assessment of her ex’s feelings might not be accurate.  Jealousy could easily become a huge issue on both your part, the child’s as well as the ex-husbands. You will need to evaluate the situation and decide if it is something you want to become involved with.

Most people would be uneasy with it. If you are serious about finding love, I would suggest you contact me at 306-978-LOVE (5683) or 204-257-LOVE (5683).