Dear Lianne,

While I do appreciate the match you have presented to me, I have some concerns. John and I had a lovely first telephone conversation, though I am starting to have some doubts.

I am happy in my life. My new granddaughter is the love of my life. I enjoy my home and am now thinking I don’t want to move or disrupt my life. As you know, I have recently retired and I am becoming accustomed to being alone. I would love to share my life with someone but I’m not sure I want all sorts of change and chancing hurt again. My marriage was beautiful and since my husband’s passing I really haven’t dated much. 

I’m not sure what to do.


Lianne Tregobov
Intuitive Matchmaker

Dear Anne,

How nice it is that you had a great first phone conversation with John. Your life is great. You are now retired. Your baby granddaughter is a wonderful addition to your family. You have had the experience of a loving marriage and now you are in a tail spin. Plain and simply, you are frightened.

You have yourself insulated so you can avoid as much pain as possible. You have lost one spouse and the thought of getting close to another man and potentially losing him can be terrifying. You are truly in a wonderful place in your life. You are totally self-sufficient and footloose and fancy free. There is no need to plan your future in your mind with a man you have never met.

I would urge you to get to know John and take one day at a time. There is no reason why you would have to sell your home or disrupt your life. If John is the right match for your he should enhance your life, not complicate it. I would encourage you to enjoy getting to know him and let the chips fall where they may. You know I am just a phone call away. Feel free to call me as you need some encouragement at 306-978-LOVE (5683) or 204-2557-LOVE (5683).